As a lady, woman, girl, OK female I tend to question the sanity of men when they say comments that in their minds are fine. Haven’t they ever come across the other gender and taught that there are things you can say but don’t … don’t say everything that pops in your mind … think … watch TV .. take a hint …

“You look tired” … when clearly I have some makeup on … unless a woman begins a sentence with ‘I am tired’ then you can say ‘you kinda do, I have seen you run around all day’ … who wants to hear that !!! Especially if you’re feeling fine and someone comes along and says you look tired … well it’s a look I’m trying these days do you like it !!!

You sweat a lot or you have body problems and most of all you’re fat … LOL … they shock you to the core, seriously I can’t believe you just said that … now these guys I’m assuming haven’t actually had a meaningful conversation with a normal woman …

Commenting on your clothes … in a bad way … I for one thought that men don’t notice what you are wearing … well apparently I was wrong … ‘you seem to like wearing that, you wore it twice this week and why do you always wear sneakers, are they green too’ –me speechless-

It’s safe to assume that married men or men with sisters have these glitches figured out .. NOT … for my defence I tried to teach my big bro, ‘how many times have I told you, there are things you don’t say to a woman’ and he just laughs … but he’s my brother so whatever I tell him, he does the opposite … just to annoy me …

Talks to me when I am in the bathroom and the comments he throws my way … ‘stop it, move away from the bathroom doooor’

I think I lost weight … it shows right’ … ‘you’re still fat’ … ‘why do I even bother talking to you ما عندك نظر’ …

Look ‘الوحش’ … ‘how many times have I told you, don’t comment on my eating, leave me alone .. I am hungry’ .. –although truth to be told, I scare myself a little when I get hungry ;P -

When women need the blunt truth about their appearances they’ll head to their sisters or friends, that is what I do … always count on my sis to tell it to my face, ‘what do you think of that’, ‘NO’, ‘bas …’, ‘laa yelawe3 el-chabd’ …

So what is the safe response a man should have when asked a question by a woman … hmmmm … don’t really have the answer … Allah Ye3enhom ;P

When a person close to you is getting married or just got married, you can’t help but think about it. Even if you don’t, people around you will do it for you … hold your hand and give you a gentle squeeze and the stare ‘elfal lij’ and if you don’t say ‘insha’Allah’ … ohhh that’s another thing ‘ليش اشفيها ما تبي تتزوج!!!’ and if you do say ‘insha’Allah’ … ‘بسم الله ما تقول لأ’

Anyway, when I think about how people get married here, I would safely say most of them get married the traditional way, yeah some have a relationship before getting married but rarely end up together and if they do, well the outcome isn’t promising at all.

The traditional way, through family or friends, the guy comes with some of his female relatives to see and be seen basically you have minutes to decide if this is the person you want to be with !!! What would you say to the other person … would you sit silently … or you would talk and express yourself and if so about what … most will put on this angelic façade or hold back their true selves … In my opinion, as I was discussing with my sis, is to mention all my flaws, wAllah, think about it, nobody will be disappointed if you have the common good qualities but they cringe over the supposedly bad ones .. So imagine me speaking, look here ‘aham shay’ … I’m stubborn, a bit crazy sometimes, can’t tolerate stupidity, , can’t stand ‘malaqa’, sometimes I can be a control freak, feminist … whooooosh .. that’ll be the guy running out the door, that’s my sis opinion

One of my relatives didn’t like a girl because she answered his questions … a bit to forward for his taste … WTH … so you wanted her to keep silent and play a retard while you fired away your questions, why did you start asking in the first place ???

I hear people say ‘شبح العنوسة’ … first of all what a catchy phrase … I believe the whole women afraid of not being married began because they couldn’t support themselves or defend themselves, so they needed men to do that for them and once a upon a time, men stopped doing that, so women took matters into their own hands but still didn’t quite figure out the whole need-to-be-married sham yet

The thing is not only men are afraid of commitment, women are too, especially if they support themselves and are living a steady life … why would they risk it all … for what, a few months of happiness and then a life of living hell and disaster … that is what I see mostly around me … the older the woman gets, the more she cherishes her independence … No matter how old you are, responsible, mature, most men here like to think that they need to put a leash on you or you’ll run loose!!! I can’t say for sure that I won’t make a hasty marriage decision like so many did around me when reaching a certain age, but in my current situation I won’t.

A lot of things come along with marriage, responsibility, sharing, experiencing motherhood, being a partner and a lover …

Marriage is a sacred union, which I have nothing against, it is just that how people portray these days make you want to run the other way real fast … and the funny thing is, people who want you to get married are the ones who are having a sorry excuse of marriage and are cursing the day they decided to get married!!!

why should I? … ‘شر لابد منه’ … comes back their response ;P

I know there are excellent examples of how a marriage should be and how wonderful it can be, but they are in the hiding … out fronted by the misreable couples … so the latter should hang out together and leave us alone and happy couples find single ones and hang out with them and talk about how you make it work

OK now I need to get my single butt outside and have breakfast