If you are a female and single then probably you’ve been through this.
Don’t you get this from people regarding everything you want to do or say, they reflect it back to getting married!
But this is too far.
I ran into this really old guy from work, he’s hitting his fifties, so I said HI, how are you and how’s work and then he asked me if I got married and I thought it was refreshing that someone was just direct and not dancing around the subject, I said no. Then he made this lame comment that I didn’t think was a big deal till later.
Him: Since you are not married then I can give you my card
Me: Why, you wouldn’t give it to me if I were married?
Him: I don’t want you going to your husband telling him this guy gave me his card
The stupid conversation continues about what am I waiting for and “لا القطار يطوفني”
“لاعت جبدي من هالقطار … لا يطوفكم لا يطوفكم … يبا ما نبي نركب غصب أهو” 
but what I said “الزواج قسمة و نصيب”
He then writes down his email and proceeds to write down his mobile, then stopped and said do I have to write down my mobile, I said no.
I just stood there confused, thinking about the whole nonsense conversation, I’ve got male contacts, I’m still in touch with my previous supervisor! Is that wrong? I’ve got a previous colleague calling me to congratulate me when women got into the parliament. Should I start counting the business cards I have in my card holder folder, I don’t meet that many women in my business. All my colleagues are male, some are married and some are single. I brought a gift to one because his wife just had a baby and I don’t even like the guy that much, but his kid is so cute I love my current supervisor, over the past two years, I’ve introduced the whole family to him, even if my brother came to my work place, I take him there just to say HI. It’s just natural to become close if you work with someone for a period of time and they are decent.
The problem he’s my dad’s age, so if I’m going to hit on a guy, it’s definitely not you, to top that, you smoke, complete turn off!!!
I’m capable of handling myself, if some guy decided to push it too far and cross the line. Not every relationship between a man and a women needs to be romantic.
This morning I lost his card on purpose. I’d like to keep thinking of him as the nice guy that used to come to my office with coffee in hand.
#1 by MBH on October 2, 2009 - 11:48 PM
“lost his card on purpose” — ee 5o golay you threw it away & 5ala9 .. lazem sugar coating ya3ni? … women…. you just love “dancing around the subject” don’t you? :p
#2 by Bloggylife on October 3, 2009 - 12:11 AM
LOL, sij madree laish ma aqedha bil wayh
Bas 3ashan lama aqool “I lost it”, I wouldn’t have lied 
maybe I’ll just be frank when we cross path again
btw, I love people who cut it short and get to the point in all life’s aspects …
hmmmmmmm, I don’t think all women love “dancing around the subject”, not cz they hate it, bas malhom khilq, life’s too short
#3 by MBH on October 3, 2009 - 12:41 AM
Really? All those I know (including family) never get to the point. Lazim ylaw3oon chabdi 3ashan a3arf shel salfa…
#4 by Bloggylife on October 3, 2009 - 1:54 AM
LOL, I guess it depends on the mood, sometimes people love to cut it short or take a walk around the block several times
maybe you mean yelaw3oon chabdik with details
cz this is what I noticed, most men summarize, most women elaborate.
#5 by Nosayba on October 3, 2009 - 3:23 AM
Bloggy : ) You reminded me of a post I wrote some time ago. I gave it the title “Being a Woman is a Malady”.
Lel asaf single females are not just treated awkwardly sometimes by men -like the situation you mentioned-, but many of their actions are interpreted awkwardly too. Starting from putting assumptions that we think we’re “too good for the men who approach us”, to perceiving the smallest things we do as desperate attempts to get married!
How about neither? .. We simply haven’t met the right person yet, not to mention that the nature of our gender restrains us from being really in control of the timing and/or the person whom we get married to.
Remember the comment on my Noodles post who asked me if I was posting about cooking because I want to advertise for my super cooking abilities as a wife? .. : ) Sick.
#6 by MBH on October 3, 2009 - 4:38 AM
No no, you see, they pretend nothing is wrong, but it’s CLEAR that there IS something wrong.
Me: “Shisalfa?”
Mom: “Mako shay…”
Me: Oh God … not the “mako shay” scenario… UGH!
Me: “Shaklich za3lana, mit’6ayga.. sh9ayer?”
Mom: “Mako shay…”
Half an hour goes interrogating her I find what’s wrong… and usually, it’s silly…
Sometimes I just ask once, and if I get the usual “mako shay” I just walk away :p
#7 by Haider on October 3, 2009 - 3:58 PM
OK, I’m not a single woman (i.e. not single OR a woman!
) so I’m not sure how much I can relate to this.
Many men think that single = available = she wants me.
That’s almost never the case, especially in the situation you mention!
However, I do think that men and women should widen their social circles, whether to foster collaborations, friendships or relationships (or all of the above). I don’t think it’s the “nature” of the female gender that restricts such interaction. This goes back to custom and religious interpretation.
I know several people who viciously argued for gender segregation, but eventually realized that their approach simply did not serve human happiness and prosperity. One such case ended up in divorce, and the man admitted that he needed more time to get to know his wife-to-be before he committed to a marriage.
A lot of men don’t know how to communicate and interact with women because they don’t have any experience. Granted, women are difficult to understand, but realizing this before getting married would help avoid a surprise afterward!
@Nosayba: The cooking comment is hilarious. Your relationship posts were very interesting… DAMN YOU GOOGLE FOR LOSING THEM!!!!
@MBH: mako shay = ako shay.
I don’t want to talk about it = I want YOU to start talking about it.
Excerpts from the Female Dictionary.
#8 by MBH on October 3, 2009 - 4:06 PM
Haider,
Thanks for the interpretation, but I already knew that. I just tend to walk away to teach them NOT to go around in hoops and just spit it out.
Bloggy, I can’t speak about other guys, since I don’t hang out with the social type or the geezy type, so I can’t really interpret their actions and help you out. Sorry.
#9 by Bashar on October 4, 2009 - 3:05 AM
Even I can feel it now: MEN
haider; this isn’t ur growth map blog n the girl us paying per byte perhaps so plz try to summarize. Also I hate scrolling down a lot
#10 by Haider on October 4, 2009 - 3:29 AM
Bashar, your comments are mental spam. You wasted some bytes expressing your opinion (and by the looks of it not a whole lot of mental effort) when you know I wouldn’t give it much thought (consider your recent rant about my Facebook avatar)!!
Everyone else: Who invited Bashar to this discussion?
Bashar (again): I’m only kidding… You can come out of your dark corner now…
#11 by Bashar on October 4, 2009 - 6:38 AM
Haider: I’m surprised you’d bring this onto your self, but it was you who told me about the post!
#12 by Nosayba on October 4, 2009 - 8:42 AM
Bloggy, since this post is titled “Single Thoughts”, I think we should ban “non-single” people from commenting. Eh ra2yek?
#13 by Bashar on October 4, 2009 - 8:45 AM
Nosayba: On that scale, we should have all your comments removed from a Bloggylife when your blog was BANNED for unknown reasons.
Also, you’re motivating married people with children to breakup and become singles again to enjoy chatting on the comments of this blog, which should be all related to the post above. What was it about again?
#14 by Nosayba on October 4, 2009 - 8:48 AM
I think something to do with gender segregation or something… ohh.. wait.. that was Haider’s comment.
#15 by Bashar on October 4, 2009 - 9:21 AM
Nosayba: Should I be impressed or disappointed that a person with your high IQ wastes few minutes of her life reading comments from Haider
But hey, that Noodles comment really came out of no where. Who marries these days for food? All best restaurants are there, and nothing beats Mom’s cooking, assuming wife will cook that is
I DID NOT SAY THAT!!!
#16 by Haider on October 4, 2009 - 9:48 PM
Yeah, Nosayba.. Why are you promoting the breakup of family ties and blogging communities..? Why? WHY?
Bashar, if you reached this point in my comment, I guess this is a reflection of the low level of your IQ (according to you, that is..)
Guys and gal (i.e. Nosayba), do you notice a weird pattern around Bloggy’s blog? Every time she writes a post we seem to hijack it to talk about a completely different topic!
Don’t start pointing fingers… Everyone on this thread is guilty!
#17 by Bloggylife on October 5, 2009 - 12:18 AM
Nosayba, you’re right about gender restraints. And I do remember the stupid comment, wa7id fa’9ee! It’s retarded when people still ask if she can cook, OK, you think he’ll starve if I can’t!
MBH, maybe this will help.
After the usual endless “mako shay”
Me: “Mom, we can’t read minds, so unless you tell us what’s wrong, we won’t know!!!”
Haider, I think most of them just carry on under the assumption that we can’t wait to get our hands on them ;P But seriously if our interactions are based on pure intentions, everything will go smoothly without awkwardness and mis-interpretations
Bashar, eshfeek 3ala Haider, let him express himself and do hope ur wife doesn’t read that cooking comment
LOL, sij all seems to alter away from subject, but it’s refreshing, it’s like siblings rivalry between the three of you
#18 by MBH on October 5, 2009 - 12:21 AM
Bloggy,
I do say that, but it never seem to work…
Notice how I’m being nice and not starting nor contributing to the flame wars above? I should be rewarded! Do you know how to cook? :p
#19 by Haider on October 5, 2009 - 12:36 AM
Oh. My. God.
“It never seem to work…”
A grammar mistake by the one and only MBH!! Somebody call CNN!!
#20 by MBH on October 5, 2009 - 12:42 AM
I’m sleep deprived. Get off my back. CNN is biased. Call BBC.
#21 by Bloggylife on October 5, 2009 - 1:10 AM
MBH, see what happens when you obsess about something, people start noticing and commenting about the very thing you are obsessed about
#22 by Nosayba on October 5, 2009 - 1:47 AM
ROFL @ this thread. OMG too tired to write one of those Haider-like comments.
#23 by Nosayba on October 5, 2009 - 2:18 AM
On second thoughts, I will! (thank God I don’t obsess about people’s language mistakes or it would’ve come back to me at tired-times like this..). Hi MBH! *waves*.
Haider, I wasn’t referring to religious interpretations/traditions nor gender segregation. In fact, when it comes to initiative women, the Islamic history is full of examples – prophet pbuh’s first wife to start with! But I do get your point. Men might find it awkward if they were approached by women -seeking a serious commitment, that is- driven by their traditions and religious interpretations. But tell me something, is it not true that men become repulsed by such women, regardless of their cultural background? (OK, OK, I have to UNBAN married men again because they form the majority here). Hi MBH! *waves*.
Bashar, no worries, my IQ’s been degrading since I’ve started Twittering ; )
MBH Agool, tell them how awesome my chocolate chip cookies were!! Tell them! =p I’m not sure why, I kind of forgot why I’m here in the first place..
#24 by Haider on October 5, 2009 - 3:00 AM
@Nosayba: Haider-like comments? That deserves a wikipedia page!
I know YOU weren’t referring to religious interpretation/tradition. I was
There’s nothing inherent in the nature of women that prevents them from controlling the timing of their marriage and their choice of spouse. This boils down primarily to religious interpretation/tradition.
My first serious chance at getting married happened in London. I was approached by the woman (via her friend). I didn’t find it repulsive in the least. In fact, I have massive respect for proactive, independent women (Khadija -peace be on her – being a beautiful example).
I still haven’t tried making your chocolate chip cookies (with its flower component).. I hope you managed to save that post!
#25 by MBH on October 5, 2009 - 7:47 AM
“Those who can, correct. Those who can’t, criticize.” — MBH
Maybe if you people spent more time writing proper English, I wouldn’t have to correct you (to make you write better)…
#26 by Bashar on October 5, 2009 - 10:43 AM
Bloggylife: So you’re on his side now? Ohh wait, you were never on my side!
Haider: I’m devolving more and more with my increased interaction with the lower level of species. Partly this is from my times at the ministry I’m sure.
Nosayba:” too tired to write one of those Haider-like comments.” LOL
I got a name for it… Haidament! Means long pointless circular comments to which it’s author keeps defending is a contribute to the discussion.
MBH: No excuses. You never ask people before you comment “Are you too tired? Did you have bad childhood? Do you have bad eye sight?” This will go in history books.
And if you notice, the world is changing. Twitter for one, like it or not, had made it officially legitimate to do all spelling mistakes you like as long as poelpe cn raed t.
#27 by MBH on October 5, 2009 - 3:04 PM
Bashar,
“to which it’s author” -> to which its author.
#28 by Nosayba on October 5, 2009 - 3:11 PM
MBH Shut up before someone gives you a missspelled Haidament..
#29 by Haider on October 5, 2009 - 6:20 PM
Well, well, Bashar! I never thought you could be so funny! I never thought you could be funny at all, actually. But your last comment made me LOL for real!
MBH, we can all accept others making spelling mistakes, but not you. Correcting Bashar’s spelling won’t change the fact that YOU made a spelling mistake! Besides, you missed out 25 more spelling/grammar mistakes in Bashar’s comment, so there’s no use picking on just one.
#30 by MBH on October 5, 2009 - 7:23 PM
Haider,
I intentionally left the others and focused on that one specifically, since he commented at me in it. I should mention that you all made mistakes except Nosayba, but I tried hard and ignored them.
What you people don’t get, is that this is a medical condition for me; it’s called Obsessive Compulsive Disorder.
If we were chatting, verbally, and you made mistake, I’d correct it on the spot. It’s that bad.
#31 by Bashar on October 5, 2009 - 8:22 PM
MBH: Pretty sad indeed… for you
. You know how much wasted time this habits converts into?
Nosayba: Yeah thanks for the backup.
Haider: And I never thought you’d admit it! Thanks.
PS: I went to 360 today without you
#32 by Nosayba on October 5, 2009 - 11:02 PM
#33 by MBH on October 5, 2009 - 11:23 PM
/me crawls into a corner
“Don’t look at me! I’m hideous!”
#34 by Bashar on October 5, 2009 - 11:57 PM
#34 comments so far. Not bad Bloggylife
#35 by Haider on October 6, 2009 - 12:04 AM
… by 4 commenters who have nothing better to do with their lives.
#36 by Nosayba on October 6, 2009 - 12:20 AM
Which proves my point: http://psychopathya.wordpress.com/2009/02/24/average-no-of-comments-per-topic/
MBH, you’re not.
It’s OK. These things happen.
#37 by Bashar on October 6, 2009 - 8:35 AM
Bloggylife: Nosayba is spamming with links to her post. She has record you know. Banned from Twitter and blogspot in a previous life.
And no Nosayba, this doesn’t apply here. We just clutter each and every topic Bloggylife writes
. And my blog top comments are on simple PS3 fix tip. Beat that!
#38 by Bloggylife on October 6, 2009 - 9:19 PM
ROFLMAO hahahaha
ساحة فنية ;P
I wonder what’ll happen when the 4 of you get together, MBH will be terminated first for correcting everyone verbally
Bashar will be pissed off cz Nosayba and Haider are teaming against him 
Me, I’ll be the innocent bystander laughing my ass off in the corner.
OMG, this is hilarious, what was the topic about aslan!
Did, I just pull a Haidament LOOOL
#39 by Bashar on October 6, 2009 - 10:00 PM
Bloggylife: I feel like those american street boys that draw over all walls
.
Haidament… no way. Too short and has a point.
#40 by Nosayba on October 6, 2009 - 10:51 PM
Sorry Haider, but LOOOOOOOL!!
And YEAH, Bloggy, it’ll be hilarious… lol @ your scenario. Btw I just noticed that I had run into all of you guys offline at some point, but individually, & in different occasions.
For what it’s worth, I think that Haider and Bashar will team up against MBH this time. I’ll try to support him at some point because he’s my good ol’friend, but then when Haider starts haidamenting, Bashar gets sick of it and tries changing the subject to something related to Mac or PS3, MBH finds himself struggling between correcting their spoken language mistakes, if any, and attacking Steve Jobs or switching the topic to Linux, some way or another. At this point we both decide to leave and go somewhere where we can gossip about random topics like lack of maturity or degraded IQ scores.. or.. oh.. wait..
What was the topic of this post again?
#41 by Bashar on October 7, 2009 - 3:30 AM
Nosayba: Not PIXAR or Google ? You haven’t met me enough
. And strange that we met throug haider but never actually met u together.
To tell you the truth, I’d stab haider the first moment he turns his back. So expect dramatic changes.
#42 by Haider on October 7, 2009 - 8:45 AM
Bashar, on your blog, a post about PS3 *is* a relationship post!
And I wouldn’t expect anything less than being stabbed in the back by you! That’s what I call a week day.
Bloggy, if you’re laughing your ass off, you’re neither innocent or a bystander, so prepare yourself for carnage!
Actually, I think if we all get to meet, we’ll default to gender lines (except for Bashar, who’s really a woman in disguise
).
The ladies will *begin* with gossip and the guys will just leave and talk about manly stuff. You know, like adding a jet engine to a Hummer or wrestling with polar bears.
#43 by Bloggylife on October 7, 2009 - 8:07 PM
LOL @ PS3 *is* a relationship post!
Standing on the side laughing my ass off is totally legitimate …
Nosayba, when we ladies got together what did we gossip about
#44 by Bashar on October 7, 2009 - 9:31 PM
Heh… I just wonder is it a 1-1 or 1-n relationship post. And all I got was male fanboy comments